Domestic violence is a complex and difficult social problem that demands an effective treatment approach, particularly for the offenders. Most traditional models, based on the notion that offenders must admit responsibility for their violence before they can change, use confrontation and psycho-education to get offenders to accept this responsibility. In contrast, the solution-focused approach encourages offenders to be accountable for solutions, that is, to change their behavior and stop violence toward their spouse or partner. This article includes the work of Insoo Kim Berg with a military husband and his wife, demonstrating how a solution-focused approach can be adapted to such serious problems as domestic violence. The therapist affirmed the client\'s perception that the violence was really his wife\'s fault, but simultaneously held him accountable for change. In response, he began to think of what he could do to get what he wanted, namely, to have his wife stop calling his commanding officer so he wouldn\'t have to be bothered with coming to therapy. When the therapist adopted a \"not-knowing\" posture with the client-putting him in the position of being the expert on his own life and what he wanted-he shifted his relationship with the therapist, moving from being a \"visitor\" to a \"customer,\" ready for change. Accepting the legitimacy of the client\'s goals was respectful, but it also facilitated his moving toward change. It is human nature to become more invested in making changes when the goals are one\'s own.