Objectives: The purpose of this study was to describe and understand the individual experiences of the
researcher, who, as a result of insecure attachment with parents and an associated relationship trauma, has
functioned as a good child in the family. Methods: A collaborative autoethnography, a form of self-study,
was used to investigate and analyze the researcher’s personal experiences within a socio-cultural context.
Meanings were developed by drawing on attachment theory, relational trauma, and Object Relations theory.
Results: The researcher came to the following conclusions: First, I was an unwanted baby and I didn`t
feel the value of my self-existence because of the failure of emotional & relational attunement with my
parents. Second, I acted as a good child to receive love and recognition. Third, I knew I was worthy of
myself even if I did not act as a good child and I felt emptiness in this process. Conclusions: Counseling
theory, colleagues, my personal analysis counselor, and my co-researcher have become good self-objects and
the safe environment for repeated emotions. I realized that I can exist as I am aware of my value. Based
on these results, it is possible to deeply understand the relational trauma experienced by insecure
attachment and to provide family therapy intervention methods.